Birthday boy learns how to stay calm

A FIRST birthday, and another major milestone.

The adorable little black bundle who snuffled into our lives eight months ago is now a solid and substantial 36kg teenager with massive paws and a big heart.

An inquisitive, well-meaning black shadow around the house who’s always keen to keep an eye on what we’re up to, Teddy is as affectionate as he is enthusiastic.

But while that’s a winning combination when he’s calmly posing for a stroke from an obliging passer-by, one-year-old labradors aren’t always so good at controlling their emotions.

MOMENT OF CALM: Teddy basks in the sunshine

The frantic tail-wagging joy of a family reunion can be heartwarming, of course. But those huge paws can do a lot of damage and keeping them all on the ground when meeting exciting strangers can be a challenge.

Off the lead, he has the speed of a racehorse and the sound of those thundering paws charging towards you in the gloaming would be totally unnerving for anyone unaware of his cheerful demeanour and ability to neatly sidestep human obstacles at the very last moment.

TURN OF SPEED: Teddy steps up the pace

That means training is still a top priority, especially when it comes to improving recall and damping down reactivity to other dogs.

He’s getting better all the time, though progress is not always linear and setbacks can be disheartening.

AND HE’S OFF: putting recall to the test

Without booking a training field, nowhere in the Chilterns is sufficiently remote to guarantee there will be no unexpected encounters with people, dogs or horses. And in those circumstances, recall has to be 100 per cent reliable to avoid potential disaster.

Yes, there have been plenty of tiny triumphs: of being able to ignore distractions, walk neatly past other families without lunging or jumping, and settle down more quickly around both friends and strangers.

ON THE RIGHT PATH: beside the Thames

But it’s a gradual learning curve and persistence, patience and consistency hold the key, we’re told.

For relaxed snuffles in the woods we’ll try to steer clear of other distractions.

But the desensitising process does mean exposing Teddy to more challenging environments too: busier, narrower footpaths with more obstacles, like those down by the Thames at Bourne End, along with cafes and pub gardens.

USEFUL LESSONS: Kokoni-cross rescue Yella

A major “win” sees Teddy behaving himself on market day in St Albans, even able to walk round Waterstones without mishap.

And a day out with Lucy Parks and rescue dog Yella is a chance for Teddy to learn a few lessons from an older, calmer animal and for me to pick up some tips from an owner who has written so eloquently about her own journey into dogparenting.

DOG’S LIFE: Lucy’s articles for The Beyonder

We’re not alone in our concerns about trying to get things right, of course. The dog forums online are full of worries and calls for advice about biting or barking, pulling or jumping – and an assorted range of other behaviours.

Logging on to a useful webinar about mental stimulation and enrichment, it’s a surpise to find hundreds of other owners looking in, all with their own specific concerns about their pets, which come in all shapes and sizes.

CHILLING OUT: Teddy takes it easy

Perhaps it’s indicative of the post-Covid generation that there are more older dogs who were not properly socialised during lockdown or who suffered anxiety when their owners had to go back to work.

Maybe we’ve also become more aware of our pets’ needs. But in the unregulated world of dog training, there’s a LOT of conflicting advice. And in online forums, the exchanges can get pretty heated about the competing merits or drawbacks of harnesses and head collars, slip leads or training lines.

CAFE SOCIETY: learning how to stay calm in company

Teddy is getting there slowly, we think. And hopefully he’s enjoying the process as much as we enjoy having him in our lives.

There’s still a long way to go, but practice makes perfect: and we have plenty of lessons to learn too about how to provide the perfect home environment for a contented pet.

Puppy training offers paws for thought

THOSE big paws were a pretty good clue.

When we first saw Teddy as a cute puppy, they looked wholly out of proportion with his body, like huge clown shoes.

Now, at six months’ old, our black labrador is twice the size he was when he came into our home two months ago, and still fleshing out fast.

GROWING UP FAST: Teddy at six months

He’s almost grown out of his smart new harness and the broken remains of a 30kg extendable lead are an indication of his pulling power, which means getting to grips with his recall training as a matter of urgency. Having an exhuberant 26kg puppy jumping up at strangers is no laughing matter.

SHOW OF STRENGTH: the broken extendable lead

The weather hasn’t helped, though. Footpaths are flooded, the woods are awash with muddy puddles and, fun though that undoubtedly is for a young labrador, it makes every outing just a little more challenging.

WET PAWS: footpaths are flooded

On the plus side, Teddy is sleeping through the night and his needle-sharp puppy teeth have given way to slightly less painful adult ones. Although he does try to be gentle, like all puppies he loves to chew.

That means no slippers, shoes or socks are safe and a couple of old fluffy friends have met with an unfortunate early demise.

FATAL INJURIES: Mr Sloth was loved too much

Mr Sloth was a constant early companion whose stuffing soon began to leak. Duck was very much loved but rapidly eviscerated, his squeaker rescued in time from being swallowed. Time to look out for some indestructible playmates, it would seem.

But what’s the secret of getting Teddy to become a model citizen? We’re surrounded by excellent puppy books, some first-class online resources and the advice of friends, experienced owners and breeders….but there are still plenty of contradictions.

USEFUL TIPS: some better-known puppy books

How much exercise is just right? How much socialisation? How much training? A trio of popular puppy books contain plenty of useful tips and sound advice: Game On, Puppy!, East Peasy Puppy Squeezy and The Perfect Puppy.

But Teddy is already a little old for those early puppy classes and we need to see whether he can behave well enough to join an intermediate class.

Online, we love the straight talking and laidback approach of professional dog trainer Stonnie Dennis in Kentucky and the commonsense compassion of Canadian dog agility training and animal behaviour expert Susan Garrett.

Taken together, this pair of experienced podcasters don’t just have a huge following but also an immense amount of expertise to share, as well as absolute commitment to creating better lives for dogs and their owners.

Most importantly, they and other trainers committed to positively enriching dogs’ lives believe dogs will always do the best they can with the training we give them and the environment we expect them to perform in – which means that if they’re not doing what we want them to do, it’s our fault rather than theirs.

This can be a pretty important revelation to anyone convinced their beloved pet is being deliberately disobedient or who stumbles across trainers using old-fashioned methods based around correction and punishment.

These days we have the scientifiic evidence to show that positive reinforcement training not only works, but is much more beneficial to dogs’ health and wellbeing, as well as their bond with their owners.

POSITIVE THINKING: Teddy tackles some new challenges

Establishing that level of engagement doesn’t happen overnight, though. And for those of us new to the dog training game, there are bound to be setbacks as we battle to fully understand our canine companions.

For Susan Garrett, the answer lies in game-based training grounded in the science of animal behaviour. For Stonnie Daniels, it’s all about helping dogs reach their full potential through the use of physically and mentally demanding activities.

BEST BEHAVIOUR: Teddy in training mode

Whatever the precise formula, the goal is to raise happy, healthy and well socialised canine companions who can be much-loved family members.

Our new arrival has already won a place in our hearts. But we owe it to him to help him be that model citizen too, for everyone’s peace of mind.

Can you teach an old dog new tricks?

IT’S 6am and the park, unsurprisingly, is deserted.

It’s bitterly cold, with frost on the grass and steam rising from the river. But a small black shadow beside me is snuffling along quite contentedly, eager to discover just who’s wandered this way before.

It’s a route we’ve already explored a lot, in all kinds of weather conditions and at all times of day and night, but it takes a crisp, sunny morning before we’re actually able to photograph the lively, excited ball at our feet.

NEW ARRIVAL: Teddy the black lab

Meet Teddy, a four-month-old black labrador who has already seen a lot of upheaval in his young life, but who arrived a few days ago to join our small family.

For us, it’s the culmination of two years of searching and researching, of considering different breeds, of watching training videos, speaking to breeders and reading puppy books. And now he’s actually here, our world’s been turned upside down overnight.

FRESH START: Teddy arrives in the Chilterns

For Teddy, the change is probably just as dramatic. The fact he has already seen a couple of other households since leaving his mum and siblings is no fault of his own, but down to unfortunate changes in personal circumstances affecting the humans in his life.

As we research his birth, vaccinations and back story, we meet a succession of people who are full of praise for our four-legged arrival. The only black lab in a litter of 11, he’s learned some basic commands, is good with children and seems lively and intelligent.

WINNING WAYS: Teddy knows how to make friends

He’s also teething, curious and boisterous in the way that black labs are. Already he’s won our hearts and he is trying SO hard to please – but we know it’s going to be a steep learning curve for us all.

The vet’s pronounced him fit and healthy and friends and family have been helpful with their top tips and sound advice.

MOMENT OF PEACE: learning how to chill out

But however many books you read, first-time owners are never fully equipped to know how to tackle every new challenge that arises – or how to cope with the sudden and overwhelming imposition on your daily routine (and interruptions to your sleep patterns!).

Not-so-tiny Teddy weighs more than 13kg and has big paws and a healthy appetite. He’s had three names and this is his fourth home in as many months, so it’s not surprising if he has found life a little confusing up to now. Mercifully, he seems relatively unfazed: biddable, eager and affectionate, he wins friends easily.

LIVEWIRE: puppies are eager for attention

Best of all, everyone is happy to help. From neighbours and family members with multiple dogs to kindly shop assistants and strangers in the park, there’s a lot of expertise to draw on.

Everyone makes it look so easy, with their polite and respectful packs trotting so neatly around them and responding with alacrity to clickers, calls and whistles. But re-reading old friend and colleague Lucy Parks’ experiences with her rescue dog Yella has been useful too, and a timely reminder of the rollercoaster journey that lies ahead.

USEFUL LESSONS: Lucy’s adventures with rescue dog Yella

Back in the park on our 6am foray I belatedly remember that it’s my birthday. Now in my mid-60s, I’ve only owned cats in the past and despite all the videos still feel I know little about how to train Teddy to become the trusted, loving, loyal and obedient adult companion I know he can be.

But I also know just how many lessons dogs can teach to us humans too, not least about mindfulness, zest for life, grattitude and unconditional love.

BEST BEHAVIOUR: perfecting the sit command

“Dogs are our link to paradise,” said author Milan Kundera. Or as author Orhan Pamuk put it: “Dogs do speak, but only to those who know how to listen.”

It looks as if we all have a lot of learn. And as those affectionate eyes look up at me and we start heading homewards to the warmth and breakfast, I’m determined not to let the little fellow down. Here’s hoping he really can help to teach an old dog new tricks.

Crash course in puppy parenting

Guest writer Lucy Parks rises to the challenge of coping with two adorable puppies after rescue dog Yella delivers her biggest surprise

THE JOYS OF MOTHERHOOD

WE CALLED the puppies Eggy and Sock, a derivative of the Greek for “surprise” and “shock”. And I was in shock. With hindsight, we did everything wrong in those first few days.

SURPRISE DELIVERY: the new arrivals take a nap

I’d handled the pups within minutes of being born and, that weekend after they were born on the Friday, I had so many visitors to the house to see the new arrivals, all of them wanting to cuddle the little ones and Yella being hugely tolerant of the attention they were getting.

Not long after getting Yella I’d joined a Facebook group called Dogs of Amersham and Surrounding Villages, which proved to be a huge source of support in those first few days. Fellow dog owners donated a puppy crate, a video on how to raise puppies, puppy pads and emotional support.

The charity that had provided Yella was brilliant. They were as shocked as I was and gave immediate practical, emotional and financial help.

PROUD MUM: Yella and the pups in their makeshift whelping pen

I’d posted about the pups on Facebook the day they were born and, by that evening, I had five or six people who were interested in having one. First dibs went to my best friend, who’d wanted a dog for years, and Yella gave her the perfect opportunity.

They changed her name from Eggy to Lumi – short for “halloumi”, in a nod to her heritage – and Sock, the boy, was bagged by another friend. At least it took away one of the stresses, knowing that I had homes for them.

Yella’s timing could not have been more perfect: the fact she had the pups on a Friday afternoon, when I was at home; that I had the weekend to get my head around the new challenge I was facing; that I had started work at the vet’s that same week so had expert knowledge on tap. That Yella took to motherhood like a duck to water was an added bonus.

Oh goodness, I learned so much that first weekend. It was a true crash course in dog parenting and it passed in a blur. We made a make-shift whelping pen from Yella’s crate and cardboard. Later, we created a puppy pen in the hallway.

HOME COMFORTS: the pups move into the hallway

The eight weeks I had the puppies at home – incidentally, the same amount of time I’d had Yella before she gave birth – proved the hardest job I’ve ever done. These little eating, sleeping, shouting, pooing machines were relentless. Watching their development from tiny blind hamsters to cheeky, adventurous toddlers, though, was wonderful.

TIRED BUT HAPPY: Lumi and Sock sleep off another day of shouting and pooing

By the time they left for their new homes, we were all exhausted and relieved. Yella was ready to let them go and I was just happy to have my house back to normal.

Lucy Parks lives in Amersham, in the glorious Chiltern Hills. She adopted Cypriot rescue Yella in July 2018, her first dog. A journalist by trade, Lucy left corporate life in 2018 and set up her business, Parkslife, as a freelance journalist and artist. She’s also a veterinary receptionist, allowing her to indulge in her love of animals.

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